Showing posts with label Father's Day. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Father's Day. Show all posts

Monday, June 19, 2017

Day 43 – Poking Along to Palas de Rei

Dave, the guard at the gate.

A behind-the-scenes shot of the infield team,
choosing, modifying, submitting each night
to the Blog Boss. Cutting room for pics, too.

Leaving Portomarin at 6 AM to beat the
heat. Never got that hot today, though.

One man's junk is another man's treasure.

The cows have come home to empty their tanks.
Clearly, they need some udder relief!

Another cross with personal tokens of loved ones.

Really fun group of Irish friends who started
from Sarria. They gave Dave some advice 
about his sore leg. More electrolytes! 

Some large groups of high school kids on the
walk with us now. They are excited and noisy!

These two, walking together to share music
headsets. Dave and I will not be doing that.

Nice back yard with a Camino theme.

Our Irish pals again. They stop at every bar.
All Caminos are different and personal.

Another group of quiet kids.

Lighting candles in the Santiago de Alba 
church in Palas de Rei.

Hope Dave is lighting one 
for that sore leg!

10:05 PM, saying good-bye to the sun.

Side window open, hopin' for a breeze.
Kinda hot in this here room!

Tomorrow, we turn our faces to
Melide, a 9.3-mile walk. After that,
only 2 more stops before Santiago!

A story from Dave:
       So, today was a tough one. My hamstring problem has spread to the calf now, and I think a pre-existing muscle weakness in that leg is beginning to cause problems as the other muscles try to compensate. Contributing to the issue may be a lack of adequate electrolytes. (My Irish doctor-friend clued me in on this and gave me some powder to treat it.) Great guy. Hoping this was at least part of the cause of today's difficulties and that things will be better tomorrow. Meanwhile, I will keep throwing ice and Deep Blue at this thing. With a good night's sleep, these old bones should be ready to rumble! (At least they only have to rumble a little over nine miles each for the next two days.)
       Due to the leg issue, I have to limp and take smaller strides. This means I am slower than most walkers. People pass me all day long, where in the past, I was the passer. It has to be frustrating for Mike (probably even more so than for me, since he is still able-bodied), but he is an impressively good sport about it all. He told me (in jest, I think) that he would leave me by the side of the road if we didn't make it to our destination by 2:00 PM. We made it at 1:40. That distance would normally take us five hours; today it took seven. Thank goodness it didn't get as hot as forecasted, as a few unexpected clouds appeared. 
       Don't worry, Sue. I am doing all the self-care I need to be doing. As I approach the finish line, it seems that my body is rebelling, but I am in good spirits and still enjoying the experience. Life isn't always easy, but it really is worth it. Also "worth it" is Mike's friendship. Beneath the teasing (which actually keeps me smiling) is a wealth of concern and compassion that is felt and appreciated. Mike is unfailingly kind and thoughtful; a better Camino partner would be hard to find. 

A story from Mike:
       We have talked before about the three stages of the Camino. The first part, which is over the Pyrenees, is all about the body and becoming a pilgrim physically. The second part is the Meseta, which is long and flat and hot, challenging the mind. The third is about the soul and allowing the heart to be touched by Cruz de Ferro and O'Cebreiro and the final push to Santiago and the Botafumeiro. I have truly loved all of the Camino, and I believe these stages are descriptively accurate of the experience: body, mind, and soul.
       We started the third phase with a huge physical push up to the highest point on the Camino, Cruz de Ferro. Thanks to the first stage over the Pyrenees, we were physically prepared for the climb. When we achieved the peak, we were spiritually touched by the tenderness of laying open our feelings about Max and others whose challenges we are fighting. Our souls were moved, our hearts cleansed and renewed, and (we hope) some struggles may be eased. Directly afterward, we faced a long, hard descent of over 3,200 feet over rocky, slippery terrain. In order to keep from falling, spraining an ankle, or bruising an ankle bone, we had to pay close attention every second and protect each footstep with constant use of our hiking sticks. Perhaps this keener ability to manipulate the challenging terrains was gained in the Meseta with a calm, alert mind, ready to confront whatever the Camino (or life) puts in front of us. 
       During the really steep ascent to O'Cebreiro, my clothes were soaked through from the immense effort. Making it to the top and peacefully sitting in a most quiet, reverent church allowed me to touch the heavens with my thoughts and feelings. If you read this article about the rocks on the Camino and throughout our lives, then you will understand. I asked and received a small rock from that church, one that will connect us to O'Cebreiro and Max forever.
       I've been blessed in so many ways, thanks to Lynna letting me go, Dave being my bodyguard each and every day, and the Lord allowing my body, mind and soul to still respond and perform at the needed level. I will discuss the unexpected challenges of these last 100 kilometers tomorrow, and we hope you continue to follow along as we finish out the week and conclude this amazing journey.

I missed getting my Father's Day post in yesterday, so I will take just a moment to honor him. I loved my father. He is everything I wanted to be, especially the example of endless love for his girlfriend and companion. Happy Father's Day.

A great couple, the best.
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Sunday, June 18, 2017

Day 42 – Plodding On to Portomarin

Up at 6:30 AM to beat the heat (96) today.
Dave loves early morning getaways!

Sarria is celebrating its Corpus Christi festival
with amazing flower carpets all over the streets.
The Blessed Sacrament (Eucharist) is honored.

We  have made it over the first major hill
and are above the fog. Still kinda dark.

Dave met a guy named Mark who grew up
in his neighborhood near Chicago, Illinois.
They recalled Northwestern U games, the
Chicago Cubs, and their championship. He's
the 3rd person Dave's met from that area.

Tree on the trail to Portomarin.
Craggy, old, and beat up. 
(Mike, we mean.)

We have made it to the 100-kilometer mark!
60 miles to Santiago de Compostela!!

This is an unofficial 100-kilometer marker,
next to an official ice cream bar (and its eater).

Along the trail, a freshly finished field.

Witch way to Santiago?

We see many  buildings with a Galician,
Dolmen-style entrance. A large stone
above and vertical stones on each side,
supporting a doorway. A strong base.
(story from Dave later)

Portomarin in the distance. Getting warm!

Horn sounds for the sailing club's first regatta.
Dave's money is on the white sailboat.

45 steps up to old town! At the end of our hike,
this did not look fun. Dripping wet by the end.

A drink with Mark from Dave's home town.

Church of San Xoan of Portomarin, a temple-
fortress of the Order of St. John of Jerusalem.

Romanesque exterior, same church. Rebuilt from
the original, now submerged under Balesar reservoir.

Tomorrow we hit up Palas de Rei. A
15 1/2-mile walk, bringing us to 45 to go!

A story from Dave: 
We have recently been seeing some very old buildings that have been around for hundreds of years and are still standing. The entrances to these Galacian Dolmen-type buildings have large stones on each side and across the top of the entrance. From this strong entrance, upon this solid base, the rest of the structure is built. 

Today is Father's Day, and I couldn't help thinking about my father. He was a kind, considerate, honest and soft-spoken man, who totally loved his children. We were lucky to have such a man in our lives. I remember one time when I was young, I was feeling particularly blue and sorry for myself. Can't remember what was wrong, but my dad recognized my mood and sat down to tell me a story. On his way to work one day in downtown Chicago, he was crossing the bridge over the Chicago River when he heard the clearest and sweetest whistle. It was "My Alice Blue Gown," a song made popular in the 1920s. My dad looked for the source of this beautiful music and finally saw a blind man walking with his white cane, coming from the other side and finding his way through the crowd. My dad was impressed that a man with such a disability could be so cheerful, and he could tell that everyone else's spirits were lifted by the man's song. Dad, in his soft-spoken way and as usual, had given me a message. Nothing else needed to be said. 

I was blessed to be built upon a strong foundation.
 I miss him.
Allan Anderson
1912-1991


A thought from Sue:

The Twelve Maybes of Mental Illness
©2017 Susan Noyes Anderson

If you are mentally ill...  
  1. People may not respect your intelligence, even when it equals or exceeds theirs.
  2. People may discount your pain, simply because they have never felt and cannot imagine it. 
  3. People may condemn your actions, lacking the vision to see beyond their own frames of reference.
  4. People may hurt your feelings by being unfeeling, failing to comprehend that you (like everyone else) need and deserve support.
  5. People may expect you to change your mood with attitude or snap out of it, not realizing (and aren't they fortunate?) that some moods are neuro-chemical in nature and cannot be "thought" or even "acted" away.
  6. People may dismiss the difficult challenges inherent in taking psychiatric medication, never considering that man's feeble attempt to change chemicals in the brain is a relatively new and imperfect science, subject to all kinds of vagaries including unexpected side effects and grueling, un-forewarned withdrawal.
  7. People may accuse you of being "too dramatic," taking for granted their own blessing of a balanced brain chemistry and enough well-being to choose how much feeling they want to bring to the table at any given moment. 
  8. People may patronize, pre-judge, or talk down to you, mistakenly assuming your illness trumps your humanity.
  9. People may not really listen to you or your experience, their minds being too narrow or fearful to accommodate either one.
  10. People may not recognize or empathize with your struggle; some lack the capacity, the will, and the wisdom to do so.
  11. People may not validate you, for validation would irrevocably open their eyes and minds to the often harsh realities of mental illness.
  12. People may avoid you––afraid of what, deep inside, they know––that it could have been them or someone they love struggling with mental illness instead of you.
          If you are not mentally ill...
          Try not to be the people in 1-12 above. 

           It's a disease, not a decision.

To not have your suffering recognized is an almost unbearable from of violence. 
–Andrei Lankov

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike. 
– J.K. Rowling

Prejudice is a great time saver. You can form opinions without having to get the facts.
–E.B. White

Let's be the people they need!

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Day 41 – Fathers Are Forever...Grandpas, Too!


Happy Father's Day to the Dynamic Duo, aka the Camino Crusaders. You are our heroes!

For Mike:

The Harris Family says:
Annie: Vroom (Grandpa) is a finisher! A couple of years go, he walked parts of the Camino, but now he is doing the whole thing. He taught me that it is important to finish what you start!
Will: Vroom sets a good example to me of how I want to live my life. He is friendly and talks to all people!
Katie: Vroom is funny! He has a quick sense of humor that always makes me laugh!!
Jeffrey: Vroom is always teaching me...how to be a better teammate, family member, and person! He is always at my games and teaching me how to get better.
Alisha: Dad has great courage and determination to do what his heart tells him. He is the most generous and friendly person and would give all that he has to a complete stranger, who really would not be a stranger after a minute with him. He sees into people's hearts and lifts them up...spreads happiness and goodness!
Scott: Mike is one of the most generous people I have ever met! He also loves technology, and I love helping him.

The (Chip) Taylor Family says:
Dax: I miss Grandpa, and he is a super good hiker. Can't wait for Yosemite and hiking to the lake!
Mayzie: My grandpa is really strong to be able to do this Camino thing.
Bean: I am super excited to see Grandpa at Yosemite. I love him and am proud of him.
Redd: Can't wait to play football!
Chandler: We are proud of him, and the Camino is a great accomplishment. He is having the time of his life!
Chip: Dad is the type of guy that would give the shirt off his back even though it meant he didn't have one. I will always be grateful that he didn't kill me after totaling two cars! He is such a great example to my family.

The Astorga Family says:
Taylor: I love everything about Grandpa, and he plays ball with me. I miss him. He is as handsome as me.
Michael: I think he is funny and kind and fun to go to the park with me. He surprises us. I hope he teaches me to play golf. Because he looks just like me.
Abby: I love my grandpa because he plays with me and because he loves me. I want to see him!
Melissa: I love that he is my dad and my friend. I really appreciate everything he does for me and my family. He is so thoughtful. Hurry home!

The (Johnny) Taylor Family says:
Crosby: Thank you for being a great grandpa and inviting us to parties and paying for Yosemite.
Truman: Thank you for coming to Michigan!
Iris: Thank you for coming to our house. Thank you for being such a nice grandpa and giving us nice things. And you make the best breakfast!!
Johnny: I love my dad. He is a hero on many levels. Top of the attribute list is his love of people. He has a genuine interest in people and connects personally with their soul. He understands spiritual priorities and has matured his relationship with Heavenly partners. He hits a power fade with the best of them. Don't touch his feet or hair.

Annie Taylor says:
Our father was.....
Human
Vulnerable
Strong
Kind
Nurturing
Tough
Giving
Awesome
.....you are just like him.

Happy Father's Day big bro.

Lynna Taylor says:
Happy Father's Day, Mike, to a great dad who has always put his whole heart into his family. As in other areas of your life, you have been a dad with kindness, generosity, and humor. You are a good friend and partner in all the craziness of life. Thanks, buddy. Have a great day! We miss you tons. Can't wait to see you at YMR!

The Taylor Clan
Grandpa (Mike) and little Abby.

For Dave:

The Anderson Family says:
Matt: Hey, Dad. Happy Father's Day. I love you and thank you for being so strong and supportive in my life and the lives of my own family.
Heather: Dad, it's crazy to think we have been related for about 20 years! But you have always made me feel like family and feel welcomed, loved and supported. When I met you, I didn't have a lot of good male father-figure type role models, and it was so nice to meet a trustworthy guy I could look up to. Your unwavering support of your loved ones always leaves me in awe. You are strong and find the courage to press on when so many others would give up. Your quiet love is felt and treasured by all who know you, and I am honored to call you Dad (and father-in-law). I feel so lucky to have married a man who has you as an example of how to be a loving and supportive husband and dad. My kids are blessed to have you as their grandpa. I am so glad you got to take  this journey and hike through Spain. I hope you enjoy your Father's Day and know you are loved! PS. Thanks for the cute post card about chocolate! xoxo
Jeremiah: Grandpa, you are a great father/grandfather to everyone in the Anderson clan. I fondly remember you taking me on adventures to find treasure and battle the Boa trees. Not only this, but you are a great role model in the way you live your life. Every day you give your family the courage to "Stand sure." Love you. 
Carli: Happy Father's Day, Grandpa! I always love spending time with you and solving/telling riddles to each other. You are such a fun and happy person all the time, and I enjoy going places with you or just talking to you. You always have a smile on your face, which spreads to everyone in the room. Just talking to and being around you can always make me happy. I love our talks, and Christmas is the best up at your house. I have so many memories of all the treasure hunts we went on from the magic tree that I will never forget. You are an amazing role model for everyone, and I love you. Have a great Father's Day!
Bryce: Hi, Grandpa. Happy Father's Day! You are the best grandpa ever, and I love hanging out with you!

The Valdez Family says:
Bobby: What I admire most about you is the creativity you naturally apply when approaching activities. The special bond you have with Karin is so evident when you two are together. The way Karin loves, respects, and cherishes you is what I hope to earn with my children. The way my Alcide and Melina look at you when you walk into a room is proof of the quality father and grandfather you are.
Karin, Alcide, and Melina: Thanks for being the greatest Dad and Grandpa ever! I am so blessed to be able to call you Dad. I have always loved bragging to people about my father being the greatest dad in the world. My kids think you are the best grandpa ever, too. Melina always talks about her "papa" and how you fly the banana in your videos. Of course, she makes the noise to go along with it. Whenever she hears an airplane, Melina will tell anyone around that her papa went on the plane. She can't stop talking about Papa, and making juice with Papa, and what fun she will have when you get back. Alcide loves watching the videos you send us and gets huge smiles on his face every time he sees you in them. He also loves making the airplane noise and pointing to the sky for you. And he thinks it's the best thing in the world when you make him fly! Thanks for all you do for us. We love and miss you so much and can't wait for you to be back home. So proud of you.

Ryan Anderson says:
I can't help but be glad you are out in Spain on Father's Day, as it saves me the expense and effort of buying and BBQing dinner! I've been able to think a lot about your hike, as I have been reading the blog. It has made me appreciate the mutual interest we have in experiencing nature and enjoying the outdoors. (I'm a bit jealous of your trip, actually.) I am forever grateful for the introduction you gave me to camping/backpacking as a youth and look forward to more trips over the upcoming years. After hiking 500 miles, you are not allowed to play the age card for at least another decade. Thanks for always being there and supporting me in my goals. Happy Father's Day. I love you!

Todd Anderson says:
Happy Father's Day, Dad. Thanks for all you've done for me over the years and for what you are trying to accomplish with this trip. It's a good cause, and there needs to be more understanding about mental illness. By the way, you are still pretty tough, for an old guy.

Sue Anderson says: 
One of the most important things a woman can do for her children is to choose their father well. I can say with 100% certainty that I got that job done. In fact, I rocked it! There is no father more loyal, protective, and dedicated to his children than you are. You make sacrifices for them as if it were easy, pouring your time and love into each one freely. Thanks to you, they have a security and stability that I never had with my dad, and I am so grateful. With you in our corner, we all feel a little bit safer and more loved. (Well, actually, a lot safer and a lot more loved.) Thanks, Dave. And Happy Father's Day! xox
PS. Your grandchildren adore you.
Alcide and Melina 
Dave's son Matt and darling granddaughter Carli

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